The kindness that we don't talk about

how am not being kind to the next person? How do I even decide not to be kind? How do I get to be rude and dismiss others feelings and emotions? How can I belittle and disrespect others?

I need kindness.

Yes I am flawed, I have made lot of mistakes, I have made bad choices, I also feel like i have wasted my time and I have been so harsh, mean and rude to myself and people who didn't mean no harm. And the world has been unkind to me too, fair enough right? I take full responsibility. I didn't know better and I forgive myself for being naïve, but now I have a very clear beautiful picture.

I now understand what does this saying "Motho ke Motho ka Batho." mean. Do you understand this concept? Can you understand it if it was to be presented to you?

To be honest I desperately need all the kindness this world can give, each and every single day. I need to feel this kindness, I need to show this kindness to myself, I need to feel whole. I'm tired of feeling misunderstood and judged by myself, I understand that it all starts with me. I don't know about you but I try my level best to show and give kindness because I need it more. I am taking accountability. "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" the pill I got to swallow after I couldn't take the unkindness I've shown myself anymore, that unkindness was the pit, the darkest hole endured for so long, going through all these pains because I didn't want to accept change of seasons. Then I remembered that it cannot only be me who is so unkind to myself. Surely I have my gang, so we are definitely going to be so kind to one another. Hug yourself, hug yourself so tightly and tell your inner child that we are trying a new way to heal and appreciate our flaws through kindness and compassion.

My goal is to give and show kindness and be expectant that the universe will reciprocate my energy.

Daily reminder: "I am kind to myself and others."

How to show kindness?

• Listen to understand and look at people when they talk to you

• Don't judge others

• Be compassionate

• Be patient with yourself and others

• Treat yourself and others better

• Love yourself and equally so love others

• Share the little you have with others

• Respect yourself and others

• Give hugs ( I know covid happened but when the pandemic is all over, normalize hugging people)

• Be nice to yourself and others

• Don't assume

• You can add any form of kindness you need the universe to show and give you

okay but keep this in mind: have boundaries, do not over pour yourself and remember you can say NO is the most kindest ways.

For example:

If someone asks you to hang out with them after work and you can't, you can say " I'm sorry I can't hang out today, I'm tired and my plan was to go home and rest after work."

Your response is honest and kind.

I know how it feels to be unseen nor unheard or both, to be misunderstood, to be dismissed and to be disrespected. I know how it can destroy your confidence and self-esteem. I am here to listen, to hear you and to see you, to understand and respect you. I don't want to be the one who has to make you feel miserable because of my unkindness. I want to give you a safe space. A space where you are able to take risks without fearing to fail. Just imagine what you can do in that space. It's a healing space. it's a free space. It's a space full of kindness that we all need.

I am going to be kind to myself.

I am going to be kind to you.

You are going to be kind to yourself.

You are going to be kind to me and others.

We need each other.